NigeriansTalk

A cou­ple of years ago I went inter­net hop­ping and I came across a site that gives you access to your partner’s con­ver­sa­tion.  Basi­cally, if you put in your partner’s phone num­ber, you will be able to lis­ten in to his/her con­ver­sa­tion.  That web­site also had other ‘cool’ tools and ser­vices.  I was tempted.  In fact let me be quite hon­est, I was VERY
tempted.  But, as I sat down look­ing at my com­puter screen, I real­ized that by par­tic­i­pat­ing in this web­site, I am basi­cally infring­ing on someone’s pri­vacy and I couldn’t just go through with that (as most of you know, I am a pri­vacy freak!).

I remem­ber call­ing a good male friend of mine to whom I make a cou­ple of my con­fes­sions to and telling him of my most recent need to become a pri­vate investigator/sleuthing professional/ tech­ni­cal part­ner checker with tech­no­log­i­cal tools (any of these terms will do!).  His com­ment was, “why is it that when African women get into rela­tion­ships, they become almost schiz­o­phrenic?”.   I laughed at his com­ment but it got me think­ing as I went on to check on the stats of this sleuthing web­site. From what I could see, this site was doing quite well, so there are  lots of peo­ple check­ing up on their part­ners who do not care about the whole pri­vacy con­cept. It got me think­ing, “where is the trust???”.

Trust is a five let­ter word, which accord­ing to the Web­ster and other dictionary’s out there, means com­plete con­fi­dence in a person’s integrity.  It leaves me with the ques­tion, “how many of us trust com­pletely in our partner’s integrity?”  How many of us, have found ways of get­ting into our part­ners email boxes, face book pages, phone sys­tems and what other sys­tems out there to find out who he/she is talk­ing to, or who he is spend­ing his online and off line moments with other than you?

I have often won­dered if the trust issue is more of Freudian slip than any­thing else.  Are you ulti­mately telling your part­ner when you are doing these things that you do not trust YOURSELF?  Are you really look­ing for an out from the relationship?I really do not know.  I per­son­ally do not think it is pos­si­ble to trust your part­ner 100 % these days.  But, I do know this — Trust is a five let­ter word,that often comes with com­mit­ment, loy­alty and integrity.  Do you trust your part­ner completely?